Aisha LaDon, PhD, Transpersonal Psychotherapist | My Research Process
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My Research Process

Hello People! I missed you. I have been working on various design projects, updated my main website, logged in one day and found that I had been hacked. It was no fun getting things back up to date, and luckily I have backups of my site and all my posts.

So, I am back!

I have been just contacting the DNA matches for my father and I, and keeping track of who is who and adding final confirmed family invites to


  1. Go to a DNA match on
  2. Check their profile and see if I already know them or people they are related to
  3. If not I look at shared matches and see if they have a shared match I am familiar with
  4. If not I check to see if they have a family tree on
  5. I cruise around their tree for family surnames and or family matches from their tree to mine.
  6. If they don’t have a tree, I send them a message explaining who I am and ask if they have a tree to share. Most people get back to me and happily share their tree, others just completely ignore me. Having your name up on the site is optional, so if you don’t want to be found, why have yourself up there? I have no idea.
  7. While I wait for a response I begin my digging. I check census, birth certificates, marriage certificates, social media accounts, blogs, etc. for this person and any info I can dig up on them. If I do find them on social media and know it’s them for sure I message them and ask them if they would like to connect and share info. I am finding that some people take their DNA test and forget all about the site and never come back to their results.
  8. I also look at who they are following and who is following them, searching for other family members that I can make a note of. ( Yes, I am a social media stalker when it comes to research)
  9. Lastly, I head over to GEDMATCH, and other ancestry sites that I have updated my RAW files to , to see if these people are on these profiles with more detailed info.
  10. And then I wait. 🙁 This is the hardest part for me.
  11. Once I have absolutely confirmed, exactly how the person is related, I add them to my private family tree social media network on They get an email with the invite and I request them to add what they know about their side of the family in order to contribute to the legacy.

It is a lot of work, but it is very rewarding, and fun.


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